Lift other women up. It’s more important than you think.

As women, we are conditioned at a young age to look pretty, play by the rules, be ladylike, act appropriately, fit in. Not to mention being sexualized from the moment we develop breasts, or even earlier than that for those of us who have unfortunately experienced abuse at a young age.

Catcalls on the street, sexual harassment at work, inappropriate behavior from men we thought were friends, overall pressure from society… all environments and situations women are exposed to lead to a 24/7 hypnosis of degradation.

In a world that continues to place women (and minorities) on a 2nd tier, it’s important to lift each other up. Equality is a systemic battle, but it may begin by overcoming the internal one of the mind.

Go ahead– like and comment “YAASSS” on that fly selfie, praise that woman at work, hug strangers in the bathroom, stand up for those who have been conditioned not to speak, have some f*cking self-control/respect and don’t “steal” that woman’s bf/fiance/husband, support women-owned businesses, support woman-focused movies and shows, mentor young women, or even just be unapologetically confident for the sake of being a role model in your own right. It is your duty. Pave the way.

Confidence in ourselves and demanding respect for each other is a key component of ending the cycle. We may not be equal in a world of men yet, but we sure as hell have no excuse to not uplift each other.

It takes a village.



The new reality of exclusivity.

“It isn’t merely the representation of female bodies that is at issue: it’s the sheer lack of women in the dance music industry. On festival stages, in club lineups, in positions of power as defined by influence over what people listen to and how much money can be made, women are in the extreme minority. Other than providing some publications occasional opportunities to publish inoffensive lists of “must-hear” female DJs “you need to know,” this gender imbalance does nothing positive for the culture.

Further, the fact that brown and black women are seen as objects fit for consumption of straight white male gaze, and with rare exception, not suitable for a spot behind the decks on a festival main stage is problematic and indicative of the huge gap between mainstream dance music’s ethos of acceptance and its new reality of exclusivity.”

“The core of the dance music scene is its music and delivering a quality product in an economically reasonable manner irrespective of the artists’ identities should be a priority. Still, dance music as we know it was originated by black, Latino, and queer artists who wanted to created safe places for people disenfranchised by mainstream society. These spaceswere where they could find acceptance, community, and a damn good time, away from the straight white male patriarchy. In a cruel twist of fate, that patriarchy is now the ruling class of this once underground culture.”


Other thoughts: I would love to make and act in a biopic about Frankie Knuckles someday.